tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3319585156044214967.post3047114147030443891..comments2023-11-05T09:12:48.637+00:00Comments on Cheshire Wife: The home straitcheshire wifehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13944869219641386387noreply@blogger.comBlogger28125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3319585156044214967.post-16831956358439162172010-05-15T17:46:11.904+01:002010-05-15T17:46:11.904+01:00You seem to have managed all this very well, CW. G...You seem to have managed all this very well, CW. Glad you chose the right home.Susie Verekerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15231577537523515291noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3319585156044214967.post-87859569867005957692010-03-31T11:29:23.399+01:002010-03-31T11:29:23.399+01:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3319585156044214967.post-75919419820864731572010-03-29T21:09:48.082+01:002010-03-29T21:09:48.082+01:00MLJ - sorry to read about your father. You sort of...MLJ - sorry to read about your father. You sort of hope that they will get better.<br /><br />Michelloui - I wish you luck when the time comes.<br /><br />diney - I am so glad that I did not have to go through this with my father. It would have been unbearable.<br /><br />WM - yes, I think that I have.cheshire wifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13944869219641386387noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3319585156044214967.post-84018531602795561592010-03-29T20:42:18.207+01:002010-03-29T20:42:18.207+01:00Sounds like you found a lovely, caring place for y...Sounds like you found a lovely, caring place for your mum.Working Mumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16243697047355131343noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3319585156044214967.post-54942104865868250272010-03-29T20:21:44.492+01:002010-03-29T20:21:44.492+01:00Don't know if my comment got through...but I w...Don't know if my comment got through...but I want you to know that I think you are extraordinarily wise, and that you are handling this perfectly! I am so sorry that you must face all this...it is so heartbreaking and difficult to watch our loved ones fade. But you have been so good to your mum, and it must be some comfort that she still knows you. You are much in my thoughts...Love you! Janine XOSniffles and Smileshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10073156486641622612noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3319585156044214967.post-69930369691394810832010-03-29T18:24:41.355+01:002010-03-29T18:24:41.355+01:00This could almost have been written by me as we ha...This could almost have been written by me as we have had the same situation with my father in law (who I have known all my life - he was our family doctor). It is such a sad, sad time, but thankfully there are some genuinely wonderful people who work in nursing homes. I wouldn't or couldn't do it myself. Have you tried music with your mum - it can evoke a good response as it stirs some memories.Old age is inevitable but so very sad. Pop over and see me if you have time - http://oldermumsarefun.blogspot.com <br />xx Dineydineyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17149135846677528140noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3319585156044214967.post-25728665006017383842010-03-28T20:44:57.197+01:002010-03-28T20:44:57.197+01:00Sadly I suspect we are becoming a third world coun...Sadly I suspect we are becoming a third world country. Very worrying.Grumpy Old Kenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17828200865710133059noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3319585156044214967.post-155448560242843402010-03-28T16:51:29.047+01:002010-03-28T16:51:29.047+01:00I'm glad you were able to get your Mum a plac...I'm glad you were able to get your Mum a place there, it must be so hard for you seeing her deteriorate. :(<br /><br />Thankyou for your kind comments whilst I have been absent m'dear. xAkelamaluhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11234268568845148285noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3319585156044214967.post-46939029609334174672010-03-28T11:44:04.744+01:002010-03-28T11:44:04.744+01:00Its such a sad situation, but you have coped brill...Its such a sad situation, but you have coped brilliantly, not only with your mother, buta also your brother! I'm so pleased there was a continuation between residential and nursing care at your mother's home, it does so make all the difference - to your mother and to you!Gillyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00322140697547406511noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3319585156044214967.post-73939017530652136292010-03-28T11:00:49.783+01:002010-03-28T11:00:49.783+01:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.冠宇https://www.blogger.com/profile/07373203004538903299noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3319585156044214967.post-23906466622322351872010-03-28T05:15:35.487+01:002010-03-28T05:15:35.487+01:00Sorry that you are going through all this, CW. I h...Sorry that you are going through all this, CW. I had to do the same with my parents in their 90s, only it meant a move from one community to another. While things didn't go too well initially, they worked out by time they were settled. In the end, neither had mental difficulties, but their bodies gave out.Rob-bearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00171692478879522588noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3319585156044214967.post-10178786063683340762010-03-27T14:28:27.868+00:002010-03-27T14:28:27.868+00:00I know it all seems a bad dream for you...I know b...I know it all seems a bad dream for you...I know because I've been thru it, so my insight is a bit more personal. Odd how the ones who got the attention in childhood are the ones who seem to give the least bit of attention to the parent now in dire straits...but that's the way of it. I am so grateful that she recognizes you and I'm sure her heart feels deep love for you. My prayers for you and your mother continue...<br />hugs<br />SandiSandi McBridehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09033518416111957858noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3319585156044214967.post-7936494710993202222010-03-26T20:05:09.625+00:002010-03-26T20:05:09.625+00:00Me again to let you know there is an award waiting...Me again to let you know there is an award waiting for you at mine - if you would like it. A xStrawberry Jam Annehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13695110960213262472noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3319585156044214967.post-35445465666422119262010-03-26T11:10:40.934+00:002010-03-26T11:10:40.934+00:00I'm so glad that she's being well looked a...I'm so glad that she's being well looked after...makes such a difference! It's an awful situation to find yourself in but at least there are people (unlike your brother) who are working to make it a little easier.<br /><br />My thoughts are with you<br /><br />C xCarolhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12327016337976942530noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3319585156044214967.post-268195610818051942010-03-26T11:02:36.163+00:002010-03-26T11:02:36.163+00:00Wow, this was a really interesting post to read. H...Wow, this was a really interesting post to read. HOw fortunate your mother is to have you looking after her so well. This is one of the things I try to not think about--as an only child living 6000 miles away from my (divorced) parents who live 1000 miles from each other, the logistics of caring for them in older years will be complicated. But I will do something.Michellouihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16841678308675092702noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3319585156044214967.post-38542536531805783592010-03-25T21:32:31.668+00:002010-03-25T21:32:31.668+00:00I feel for you. My dad is in nursing care - just t...I feel for you. My dad is in nursing care - just today it was decided he can no longer be taken for rides in the car. His world is getting smaller also. <br /><br />I'd send your brother all the bills!Midlife Roadtripperhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06700277803842883251noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3319585156044214967.post-31591008170210754922010-03-25T21:26:42.476+00:002010-03-25T21:26:42.476+00:00SJA - I can enjoy the view.
jinksy - my Mum was O...SJA - I can enjoy the view.<br /><br />jinksy - my Mum was OKish until she was 87, when she had a mini stroke.<br /><br />FF - I'm sorry to bring back painful memories for you.<br /><br />LLM - it is not easy. I hope that your MIL settles.cheshire wifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13944869219641386387noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3319585156044214967.post-84104099814534644032010-03-25T16:49:25.064+00:002010-03-25T16:49:25.064+00:00It's very hard being the person who has to dea...It's very hard being the person who has to deal with all of this, but sounds like you are doing a brilliant job, heart-rending as it is. The nursing home sounds good for her, and at least you have peace of mind knowing she is being watched over 24-7.<br /><br />She is very lucky to have a daughter like you, and it's wonderful she still knows you, as I've had a couple of friends whose parents have not and I know how hard that made things for them.Vickihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14452346523410139747noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3319585156044214967.post-44694842343866150582010-03-25T11:33:45.922+00:002010-03-25T11:33:45.922+00:00Such a rough time! I am dreading these days even t...Such a rough time! I am dreading these days even though we should have quite a few more years before we get there. My mother is a hoarder and getting her out of her home and away from her things will really be awful.<br />I hope the nursing home brings you peace, CW.imbeingheldhostagehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00771374087307254969noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3319585156044214967.post-32915041433324809892010-03-25T08:56:53.412+00:002010-03-25T08:56:53.412+00:00It must be such a comfort to know that your Mum re...It must be such a comfort to know that your Mum recognises you ( never mind any wicked thoughts about her not recognising your brother!Which of course I'm sure you don't have anyway)<br />There is nothing worse than family behaviour at such times. I remember the row that my sister, my cousins and I got into with my father and his two siblings over my Grandma when they put her into care. Not nice.<br /><br />But does sound as if you picked a great place for your Mum to live out her last daysFire Byrdhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05477692359400671374noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3319585156044214967.post-42977457741758698252010-03-24T23:54:11.475+00:002010-03-24T23:54:11.475+00:00I am glad that your mother is in such a safe and c...I am glad that your mother is in such a safe and caring place.<br />I feel very annoyed about your brother's behaviour and am glad that it is YOU that your mother remembers.<br /><br /><a href="http://granniemay.blogspot.com/" rel="nofollow">Nuts in May</a>Maggie Mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06183886005936250976noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3319585156044214967.post-45263653651978995122010-03-24T18:16:53.930+00:002010-03-24T18:16:53.930+00:00A particularly poignant post for me as today is my...A particularly poignant post for me as today is my mother in laws 92nd Birthday and just this last weekend she went to live permanently in a nursing home. Up till this point her husband with the help of visiting carers has managed to cope with caring for her at home. <br />Thanks for sharing your experience.LindyLouMachttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12282788551449445133noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3319585156044214967.post-91870979778875910262010-03-24T16:34:19.104+00:002010-03-24T16:34:19.104+00:00Your love for your mother shines through this post...Your love for your mother shines through this post. I can see myself walking through the home with you, looking out the window... cleaning your mother's rings.<br /><br />Thank you... for sharing this intimate part of your life with us.<br /><br />Joey from TexasJoeyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09990251768655459821noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3319585156044214967.post-1482753586334639352010-03-24T14:50:28.824+00:002010-03-24T14:50:28.824+00:00It's really not an easy situation, but I am so...It's really not an easy situation, but I am so glad the staff are helping keep her comfortable and are taking care of her. Do keep us updated on things.LHAhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09762107075253162805noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3319585156044214967.post-66078333815115324322010-03-24T11:06:02.982+00:002010-03-24T11:06:02.982+00:00You cetainly do seem to have struck lucky with you...You cetainly do seem to have struck lucky with your mum's residential and nursing homes, CW and hopefully, that makes a difficult time for you all just a little bit easier.Jennytchttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13621488409334115930noreply@blogger.com